RE: Aligned Self
JENNI,
You are a wonderful soul who has found her path. Your words reflect a
soul full of experience and wisdom. May you remain unlimited in you
heart. SO BE IT!
Sora
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>From: Jenni Ceurvels[SMTP:jenni_ceurvels@hphc.org]
>Sent: Tuesday, November 26, 1996 9:04 AM
>To: nlp-addict
>Subject: RE: Aligned Self
>
>George wrote:
>>In a message dated 96-11-24 04:02:43 EST, you write:
>>
>><< I'd like to ask you what happened to your old "dope smoking mode" after
>> you've done the "addiction strategy" process. Is it still here but not
>> "on line" anymore ? Is it removed ? Is it transformed ?
>> >>
>>
>> Don't know- I'll have to run the whole thing to check and see. May be a
>>few
>>weeks before I get to it. My initial impression is that it's still
>>there....suprisingly so, and that the "firewall" I'd installed 23 years ago
>>is a bit weaker- and I realize the prospect of removing it, and using the
>>energy bound up in it, for a positive intention, is exciting and healthy.
>
>Mine is still there but disconnected. I'm still slightly suprised by my
>ability to walk away from half a drink or joint because I've had enough. It
>feels quite strange to know what "enough" is, to be able to drink (etc.)
>without organizing my life around a stable supply of "substance du jour".
>
>Total abstinence is easier because it is an automatic refusal. Mature use is
>much more difficult because it requires thought and judgement -- do I want
>this? how much of it do I want? why do I want it? what will the consequences
>be?
>
>The parallel to total abstinence is the rigid parenting style that allows no
>deviation from the rules, no extenuating circumstances, and automatically
>refuses requests without thinking about it.
>
>Addictive mode has a parallel in the totally permissive "no rules" style of
>parenting.
>
>Mature parenting has real but flexible rules and, like mature use, is much
>harder for the same reasons -- it takes thought and judgment. As I've become
>a mature parent I've been able to expand that style and apply it to my own
>behavior as well as my son's!
>
>So there you have it -- in order grow beyond addiction, one has to grow up
>and become responsible. No wonder the success rates are so low.
>
>Blessings to all
>and to those who celebrate it -- Happy Thanksgiving!
>Jenni
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