crack addiction assistance?
I'm very interested in comments from the group on the following:
I have a friend who's smoked crack in the past, and has now chosen to
abstain from it totally, as well as from any sexual activity until he's
married, due to deeply held religious beliefs. These are his beliefs, and I
respect them.
However, he occassionally gets the same feeling "in his brain", as he says,
that he used to get when he'd smoked crack. The feeling, he says, is like
that of "6 orgasms at once" and he says the crack experience, for him, was
very closely linked to sexual arousal and, in many instances, sexual
encounters.
His fear is that the next time such a feeling comes up in his brain, he will
not resist the urge to use.
What assistance can the group offer me in using NLP in working with him?
One thing I pointed out to him was that, last week, the impulse HAD come up
and he'd successfully resisted it through isolating himself from ANY contact
with the old crack using environment, not carrying any cash on him, and
frequent, imploring prayers. He was encourgaed to realize that he had, in
fact, already weathered an onslaught of crack impulses.
I mentioned this list and that I would ask, with his permission, for
assistance. Your comments are appreciated.
This man is working very hard to keep his life turned around. Having gotten
out of prison three years ago, he now runs his own business. We have a
special connection of mutual respect and experience (due to my drug
experiences back in the '60's) I'm a bit uncomfortable with his model of the
addiction as something to fight because, in his words, everyday is a struggle
for him. I wonder if there's a way for him to deflect the energy of the
impulses, rather than feeling he has to fight them?
My heart goes out to this man, who calls me (he lives in another city) when
he feels himself getting into a spot he has difficulty handling.
I told him that everything the addiction gave him can be obtained elsewhere,
in much more positive, beneficial ways. He agrees with this, yet daily
struggles to fight the addiction.
I look forward to your comments. I've briefly reviewed the addiction
structure model with him, Bernard, and will go back and review the format
you've developed for hints to helping him.
George
BTW, I got a real moment of an AHA!!, EUREKA!! experience as I looked the
addiction decision format over and read the suggestion to shape your timeline
into a V. I'd done that on my own about 5 years ago, and have found it's
made a profound difference in my life.