Re: de-linking painful thoughts
Jobet Claudio wrote:
>
> >>
> >> What can I do NLP-wise to break these links to the painful memories ?
> >> Preferably something that I can do without too much external help.
> >
> >Jobet,
> >Be happy to help.
> >Lots of NLP things you can do to get rid of painful memories.
> >In the best of all worlds, what would you like as a new process? How would
> >you like to relate to your ex-wife?
> >
> >Regards,
> >Reg
>
> Hi Reg,
>
> Well, I'd at least like to be a good friend to her...someone you can go out
> with and have fun and feel great with.
>
> If it's not asking too much, I'd like to win her back. The win her back
> thing, I might already know how. But I have to change my own feelings
> towards her first. De-linking her from the painful memories may be enough.
> If I can hypnotically bury the memories, all the better.
>
> Regards,
>
> Jobet
Okay, here is a very important question. Have you learned anything from the
painful memories? Like maybe learn to stay away from people that allow you
to have painful experiences? Without knowing exactly what happened I
can't tell you what to do. However, from my experience I have seen lots of
people keep going back to the same or similar situation over and over and
wonder why they keep feeling pain. Maybe changing the people and
situations that you are drawn to is what would be most helpful. Many
people who cheat or abuse do it over and over and over again. Now, I can't
tell you what is best in your situation but maybe there is something you
need to learn that would be better in the long run than going back to the old
situation.
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