Better people . . .
>To: Maiser@koala.cs.cowan.edu.au
>From: Rex Steven Sikes <rssikes@mail.execpc.com>
>Subject: Better people make better NLP
>
>Greetings!
>
>I was recently mailed and asked to post this message to the newsgroup.
>I thought I would send it to the mailing list as well.
>I wrote it in response to some discussion on another forum about NLP and
>it's future.I submit it here as food for thought. Perhaps, also some good
>discussion could be generated from these thoughts and ideas which I feel are
>only some of the ingredients necessary in worthwhile training and assisting
>people in becoming better communicators. Certainly, it is not all that I or
>anyone else could say on the matter, but perhaps some will find it
>illuminating. It follows below:
>
>Expertise or excellence in any field takes time to cultivate. What can be
>learned or applied quickly takes time to season and to learn wisdom. Much of
>NLP and related disciplines can be taught or at least presented in an
>accelerated manner with students benefitting greatly from improvements in
>training. Unfortunately, many trainers are out dated and present material
>and use methods which require more time to present and more time for
>students to imbibe, understand and utilise. Much is taught too finely
>chunked down without a greater picture tying the loose smalley chunked
>pieces together. On the other hand some present it to quickly with little
>room for monitoring progress and helping the practitioner student acquire
>and adjust their skills.
>
>Some try to make the training too conscious while others claim to teach only
>to the unconscious - either way it takes more time for the learner to grasp.
>There is a very fine line in teaching and presenting material that makes it
>most useful for the learner. Balance and understanding of not only how
>people process and retrieve information but how they connect up the
>information into useable behavior and skill is required. As is balance in
>unconscious and conscious understanding. People can learn much faster today
>with some of the improvements we have made in training - the can begin the
>maturation process more quickly - still it takes time for them to mature.
>
>Because NLP claimed to be able to replicate skill faster than it took the
>original model to acquire it people think that means over night. Faster
>means faster but not instantaneously! That is a different form of
transmission.
>
>Trainers need to delve into the motivation of the learner as well. People
>take training and learn about NLP for a variety of reasons. It fulfills many
>different things for many different people. Hence, some practitioners will
>not be much good at a particular area of skill (as mentioned in a previous
>post) not only because of poor training which can be the case, but also
>because they don't care enough to master the skill, to spend time acquiring
>the wisdom to become really good. Some want a quick fix because that is what
>they believe NLP offers.
>
>So learning about the people who attend the trainings, meeting their needs,
>their educational/skill requirements, their affiliation needs, power motives
>etc. is critical in assisting learners. After all some people take seminars
>because they have a lot of extra cash, are bored and want to do something,
>some take them to learn about something but not to do something, some want
>to hang out with 'groovy' people, some people want to be more powerful,
>controlling etc. etc. Having an understanding of why people are in the
>training and what to do and how to work with people of differing levels of
>interest is where much of the skill and expertise of a really great trainer
>comes in.
>
>Then again looking into why some people are motivated to be trainers is
>useful. There is an infinite variety of reasons why some people want to
>train - because they like to have a platform, they want to instruct or
>educate others, they think it is a fast track to wealth, some want
>notoriety, they want power and control, while some genuinely like people and
>are interested in assisting them as best they can.
>
>Many areas of consideration go into what is both positive and not so
>positive about the field of NLP. Some people are great presenters but not
>nice people, some people are great attendees but not much interested in
>acquiring skill. Some methods are really outdated, some methods are hogwash,
>some information about what's new and what's hot is hype - where does NLP go
>next? NLP goes nowhere - people do.
>
>Love people, value people, respect people and that will come across in a
>training. It will help to capture those on the fringe and make them part of
>a team of participants who can learn to do and accomplish anything if their
>heart, mind and soul is in it and they are given the opportunity to flourish
>in a positive environment, with the appropriate amount of challenge and
>opportunity. Balance and forward positive movement can assist people in
>maximizing their potential. Then they will do with it whatever they do with
it.
>
>NLP doesn't make better NLP, better people make for better NLP. A guide
>should assist people in improving the quality of their lives, their
>relationships, their learning and accomplishments. What is needed to improve
>the quality of NLP and take it to higher levels is trainers with a higher
>quality of understanding people rather than more NLP tricks and information.
>Trainers need to have and students need to experience more sensitivity
>coming from the trainer, more personal one on one guidance in a classroom,
>more fun, love and laughter. After all we can use NLP to make our experience
>of living qualitatively more enjoyable. That takes insight and devotion and
>a great sense of humor.
>
>Students need to learn from models who truly love life and people, who
>genuinely use NLP in their everyday experience to make their life the most
>sumptuous it can be. They need models who go beyond teaching NLP - remember
>much of the modeling process occurs at the unconscious level. If you have a
>good presenter whose life is a shamble, who doesn't care about people but is
>in it only for him/herself, who is not a nice person etc.etc. that becomes
>part of the learning environment, part of the message, consciously and
>unconsciously, that is sent and received.
>
>Learning NLP can be one of the most fun and enjoyable experiences which
>contributes to people in infinitely positive ways. What is needed is people
>who are modeling the highest possible uses of NLP rather than the base uses.
>Who have a fire within them, who nurture their relationships and other
>people rather than destroy them or NLP them. Good models is what is needed,
>understanding is needed, compassion, the ability to listen, to meet with and
>connect with each student in a training at a variety of levels. The trainer
>needs to be able to connect personally with each learner rather than just be
>a showman or showwoman and elicit the best from each learner.
>
>The trainer needs balance in presentation, understanding of the
>participants needs and desires, s/he needs to inspire the student, to
>connect up the material in useful ways and aim the person toward the
>successful use of the material, the trainer needs to encourage, guide
>carefully and nurture the student and the learning all along the way during
>the training. Correct when necessary. Most of all I think the trainer needs
>to love the people s/he trains, respect them, value them and when the
>trainer does that the student will get the message and flourish inside that
>kind of environment. Hence, to get better practitioners the field needs true
>trainers.
>
>To learn to make better connections using NLP in everyday life the student
>should experience it first with the trainer. To learn to experience life
>more fully, positively the student should experience it with the trainer.
>Better trainers will take NLP farther than new developments can. Better
>people will make the field of NLP better.
>
>Warmest regards,
>Rex Steven Sikes
>Idea Seminars
>www.idea-seminars.com
>
>
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>Rex Steven Sikes
>www.idea-seminars.com
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>Rex Steven Sikes
>Now visit our BRAND NEW NLP web page for information
>& our training schedule! www.idea-seminars.com
>
>NOTE!!! Our New Mailing Address and Phone Numbers!!!
>We moved our offices to a suburb of Milwaukee, Wisconsin.
>
>IDEA SEMINARS "Our mind is capable of
>12605 West North Avenue S-291 passing beyond the dividing
>Brookfield, WI 53005 USA line we have drawn for it."
>414-790-1991 (office) Hermann Hesse
>414-790-1993 (fax)
>800-739-7453
>
>email: cksikes@execpc.com
>And we will be happy to snail mail you our
>free full color NLP/DHE(tm) product catalog
>and training guide when you include your
>full name, snail mail address and phone number.
>
>
>
>
Rex Steven Sikes
Now visit our BRAND NEW NLP web page for information
& our training schedule! www.idea-seminars.com
NOTE!!! Our New Mailing Address and Phone Numbers!!!
We moved our offices to a suburb of Milwaukee, Wisconsin.
IDEA SEMINARS "Our mind is capable of
12605 West North Avenue S-291 passing beyond the dividing
Brookfield, WI 53005 USA line we have drawn for it."
414-790-1991 (office) Hermann Hesse
414-790-1993 (fax)
800-739-7453
email: cksikes@execpc.com
And we will be happy to snail mail you our
free full color NLP/DHE(tm) product catalog
and training guide when you include your
full name, snail mail address and phone number.